Wednesday, 7 July 2010

David DeAngelo - Attraction isn't a choice

Attraction isnt a choice, meet a woman and interact with her long enough for her to form initial impression of me, if she DOES feel attractive for you she cant help it

The traditional rules nice to woman, persuing her, buying her things, manipulative her behavior are NOT attract to woman

Attract woman involved being arrogant, funny, leading the woman the direction i want her to be

Be someone different, entertaining, confident and in control of the situation
Getting MORE attractive is LESS manipulitive than trying buy her favor
Use the personality to cause woman feel attraction for you, you will be the one who control the outcome

Believe that i can highhly attractive to woman, thinks not work the way i think they should, changing the fake "nice" behavior is not manipulative

We can attractive to woman no matter what our flaw, as long as we discover our attractive personality

How to meet more woman?

Expand social circle, meet more woman friend
Woman normally has more girlfriends than man's do
Talk to woman whenever you can, in a bustop, coffee shop
If they're not into it, MOVE on, if they do its PLAY time
Out there is competition, MINIMIZE the bad point, MAXIMIZE the good one
Dont show you overwhelmed by her beauty,instead show her some disapproval
Not doing what other guys do
Be interesting, attractive, attention-getting, special
Relax, dont remark they'er pretty, go for it, ask question, tell them funny stories
Be interesting what they say, not their body

How to ASK a girl out?

Ask her to join you something, something fun and interesting
Available more the ONE
Dont appear creep, clingy, if doesn't go well, no big deal
Phone her expecting NOT work out, dont show "i need you badly"
Women does fear for strangers, so get into comfort during the first meeting
Phone number only a tool for relationship
Phone, day 2 dont gain anything, all it does is gain an other chance to push the relationship forward if not work out that moment
On the date have some special thing to do, eg shop for someone's birthday
Drop little hints, eg i'm go to xyz, i love to do abc, let her chase you
Engage her friends, friend's approval is very important
Dont make her feel badly when she reject
MORE she feel bad about you, LESS into you
Act like a guy who has lots woman interested in him

How to get Attention from woman

Talk to woman have a backup plan
Identify the goal eg the number, a date, moving to othe location
view the conversation at 3rd party's prespective, if feel dont like it change it quickly
Dont ask permission to do something, instead lead
Talking to woman is the most natural thing in the world
Flirting woman is create attraction
Attraction is NOT on external elements
Emphasize cocky and humor, and do throught with a SMILE

Woman like the man she can not control

I dont get rattled by setback, because i learned from my mistakes
More confident and power with woman, because woman like the man she can not control
The magical word NO
Focus on what i want, NOT what i will lose
Acting friendly and warm dont make woman feel suspicious
It isnt so much what i say to a woman, but the tone of voice i say it

Seduce woman, no excuse

I make no excuse for myself
I make no excuse for my desire as a man

I dont get rattled by setback because i learned from my mistakes